Friday, September 19, 2014
Young man, the secret of my success is that at an early age I discovered I was not God. —Oliver Wendell Holmes
Sometimes, in our families, we try to get parents or brothers or sisters to treat us the way we want them to, to do things we want them to. When they're upset or angry with us, we try to get them to stop, rather than allow them to be angry.
But our feelings are ours alone, and we are responsible only for how we feel. Those around us are not the cause of our feelings. We are.
This knowledge is a big responsibility, because we know we cannot blame others for our bad moods. But it is a fact. And this fact is also a wonderful freedom for us, for it means that we also have the power to make ourselves happy, no matter what goes on around us.
How can I make myself happy today?
From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Meeting our Higher Power and ourselves is the universal spiritual process. Sitting before the curtain of our hearts may feel as awesome to us or as frightening as anything we will ever do. When we first admit to ourselves a deeper truth, we feel these overpowering tensions. For some of us, this is a necessary step, which leads to self-knowledge and inner peace. We feel unique, different, alone, and maybe even crazy. For the first time, we are listening to our inner truth rather than outside messages.
Let's think for a moment about today's tensions and strains. Are we really aware of their source? Perhaps they are created by the disturbing honesty of our hearts? We may find our spiritual growth in yielding to the truth. When we are cynical about spiritual experience or when we minimize the importance of our soft-spoken inner wisdom, we are avoiding the truth from our hearts. And we miss the possibility of becoming strong from within.
Action for the Day: Today, I will live through the tension and fear of my honesty to reach the point of peace with myself.
One Day At A Time
Tying our sobriety to someone we are emotionally involved with proves flatly disastrous.
"I'll stay sober if so-and-so does this or that" puts an unhealthy condition on our recovery.
We have to stay sober for ourselves, no matter what other people do or fail to do. . .
We need to cool any overboard feeling, lest it flip us back into the drink.
- Living Sober, p. 62
Thought to Ponder . . .
Formula for failure: try to please everyone.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
R E L A T I O N S H I P =
Really Exciting Love Affair Turns Into Outrageous Nightmare; Sobriety Hangs In Peril.
Expect this day to be a richer, more fulfilling day than yesterday. Expect better, and your life will rise to meet those expectations.
Expect the most favorable outcome and you’ll discover ways to bring it about. Expect a positive experience and you’ll find the goodness in every situation.
The way you act is informed and influenced by what you expect. Choose to expect better and you’ll do better.
Expect to understand, to resonate and to forge deep connections with those around you, and you will. Expect to create value out of whatever you have to work with, and that value flows forth.
Expect to make a meaningful positive difference today. Expect peace, love, healing and goodness, and your efforts and energy will focus to bring them about.
Do yourself and your world a big favor, and expect better. Expect better, and find joy in the journey of making it so.
— Ralph Marston